Parenting with perspective means you have a long-term view in mind. It is working to prepare your child from childhood to adolescence to adulthood. Here are some principles that produce positive outcomes:
Principles & Outcomes
Principle: Conviction is a moral system that can determine right from wrong.
Outcome: Integrity is being honest and trustworthy.
Script: (Good guy or bad guy) (Wile Coyote or the Roadrunner)
Principle: Availability means you are there for your child.
Outcome: Accessibility is the closeness that we feel with our parents growing up.
Script: (Here or not here?) (Rock or fog)
Principle: Forgiveness is when parents forgive each other and their children.
Outcome: Clarity means making meaning out of chaos.
Script: (Let go, or hang on) (Butterfly or a Bull dog)
Principle: Self-Control is when children see restraint in their parents.
Outcome: Balance is dealing with negative/positive emotions in helpful ways.
Script: (Got this or not) (in the cup or out of the cup)
Principle: Value for each person with the absence of prejudice.
Outcome: The ability to form connections and make relationships meaningful.
Script: (The same or not the same) (We all bleed the same, right?)
Principle: Courage is the ability to face pivotal moments in life with boldness.
Outcome: Overcoming fear as a result of learning to be courageous.
Script: (Stand or run?) (Lion or kitten)
Principle: Dependency on God is the ability to trust God in difficult situations.
Outcome: Knowing that God is sovereign and can make good out of bad.
Script: (Hanging on or not) (Staying put or running away?)
Principle: Unconditional love that does not change even when we fail.
Outcome: Acceptance is God’s way of freeing us from our shame.
Script: (If’s or no if’s) (Carinal or a coyote?)
Principle: Patiently remaining steady, waiting for results without panic.
Outcome: Contentment allows the child to delay self-gratification.
Script: (Steady or not) (Turtle or rabbit)
Principle: Authenticity means consistency and ownership of one’s mistakes.
Outcome: Modeling personifies the roles of husband, wife, mother, or father.
Script: (Real or fake) (The Real McCoy or an imposture)
Principle: The importance of relationships matters more than material objects.
Outcome: Resolution is the work of resolving conflict with the people that matter.
Script: (People or things) (Gold or Fool’s gold)
Principle: The ability to apply enthusiasm to any task gives a sense of purpose.
Outcome: Resiliency helps us overcome disappointment and learn new things.
Script: (All or nothing) (Off the fence or on the fence)
Principle: Respect for authority helps the child to be teachable.
Outcome: The quality of humility which gives insight and common sense.
Script: (Asking or telling?) (Banny Rooster or Lamb?)
Principle: Responsibility is the best way to develop one’s autonomy.
Outcome: Autonomy: The development of the personality and accountability.
Script: (Yours or Mine?) (Penguin or a Lizard)